I got the link to this article today through another preemie parent. It is a short one page article…very worth the read.
For my friends with preemies: You will instantly find a familiarity in this story. I think you will read it and say, “She gets it.”
For my friends without preemies: If you know me well at all, you will know that I am a perfectionist and a worrier. This preemie journey has done nothing to help these qualities in me. 
But maybe reading it will give you an “aha” moment about watching me over the last couple of years.
It’s amazing to read things like this and be able to relate so well to the author’s feelings, thoug I wish I didn’t! Thanks for sharing!
Good article. It does explain a lot.
Lori
I read the story you left on Team Harris’s blog. I am glad you told it. I think many RNs especially RN’s who work in community hospitals that only deal with well, term, newborns do not understand the trauma that accompanies a premie birth. Many folks have no clue what kind of roller coaster ride experience it is.
I worked in Special Care Nursery before I became a labor nurse. So I have spent a lot of time with premie parents. And I agree with you that folks feel guilty about all kinds of stuff that is not their fault and they have no control over. Guilt is not a logical emotion.
I consider myself very patient with helping folks breast feed. However, I refuse to try and convince people to breast feed. When women come in, in labor, they have already made up their mind on whether or not they want to try breast feeding. I am not going to try and change their minds.
I live on the East Coast but my sister in-law lives in Mulkelteo Washington. Near Seattle? I know I visited Seattle when I went to visit her. My Brother also was stationed at Port Angeles…So he lived in Squim for a while.
Oh and thanks for posting on my blog. It is always a bit of a thrill to see that I got a comment.