Comments on: Gone

By: keepbreathing

keepbreathing — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 01:16:12 +0000

I’m sorry. What a terrible situation…

By: Stacy

Stacy — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 03:47:07 +0000

I am so sorry Lori. I also don’t know what to say but wanted you to know that you all will be in my thoughts.

Hugs

By: kellars mommy

kellars mommy — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 17:46:00 +0000

Hugs!!!! I don’t know what to say..I’m sorry…

By: abby

abby — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 17:10:55 +0000

Lori, I am so sorry. I cannot imagine what angst R must have felt to do this to herself and her family. I completely understand your anger and grief (my dad died when I was young…of totally natural causes though I wish he hadn’t smoked…and I remember the same sort of anger poking itself through along with the profound sadness). Anyway, I have no words of wisdom and nothing to say that will make the hurt go away, let alone that of S and N, but I am keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 22:45:57 +0000

Oh Lori, I’m so sorry. There is never any comforting answer to suicide. It’s a permanent solution to a temporary situation. I’ve lost a few family members to suicide. I’m so sorry. I can’t make it better but I do know how you feel. DH lost his best friend in the world while Emery was in the NICU that may or may not have been an OD. We’ll never know, but the aftermath is the hardest. Obviously, it does get better over time. You know this so I’m not telling you anything revolutionary, but I do understand. I can’t hug you or make it better so I’m keeping S and N in my prayers as well as you and Brandon.

By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 20:22:17 +0000

Lori I am so sad to hear this. so sorry!

I deal with someone in my daily life that has clinical depression and I promise you that sometimes you just CAN’T know unless you live with that person. They put on a show, let you see what they want you to see. Not everyone does this but people in very low places can pull this off. I think you should know that so you don’t beat yourself up for not seeing the signs. Mental health issues, as we see in the preemie cohort, are more common than we think and still quite taboo to talk about in general.

As far as the grief…..I am very comforted after losing my father because:

A. I know he’s in a better place, free from pain (physical or otherwise) and I’m relieved for him and

B. I KNOW I will see him again when my earthly life is done.

I know other people believe other things and I’m respectful of that but for me, this is what brings me comfort and peace. It’s still tough and I miss my loved ones that aren’t here with me anymore but I am ok.

God Bless you guys for being such dear people to help out and pitch in where needed. Again, I’m really sorry for the pain that all of this brings.

By: pinky

pinky — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 12:24:52 +0000

I am so sorry Lori. It takes a while to wrap your head around something like this. If ever really. There was a boy in our High School who hung himself. He always appeared happy. Overly happy. He was on my bus but did not live too close to me.

You do feel helpless to do really anything. All you can really do is grieve. I think it is good for you to talk about it. I think I would go absolutely insane if I could not or did not talk about something like this.